Husband of Faith - Kindness

A Christian Husband's Perspective

Each month I interview my husband, Rob. He share his thoughts about our monthly theme. He will help Wives of Faith understand a husband's point of view. He will help us understand what our husband's need.

This is a huge blessing. I am very excited about learning more of what makes my husband tick!

A Kindness Interview with My Husband of Faith

By: Lara Velez

Kindness

What does Kindness mean to you as a husband?

Rob: Kindness is accepting me for who I am with all my flaws, and still loving me. It is allowing me to do something I enjoy, or spending an afternoon doing what I want to do. Kindness is watching something with me that I enjoy, like the History Channel even though you can't stand it.

My Thoughts: Oh, he is SO right! LOL! I can't stand the History channel or those alien encounter type shows that he watches!

This is very interesting to me. Showing kindness to our husbands is sometimes simply about letting it be about them. What does YOUR husband enjoy that you do not? Do it with him. Even if you really detest it...Do it anyway. :)

What are some ways that a wife can show her husband kindness?

Rob:

• Initiate sex.
• Watch a sporting event with him or participate in something he enjoys.
• Give him a massage.
• Make his favorite meal.
• Make him breakfast in bed.
• Encourage him.
• Make a way for him to be able to do something he really enjoys, but rarely gets to do.
• Tell him he is sexy or attractive...often.
• Tell him you are proud of him.
• Organize his sock drawer.
• Clean the house.
• Make him a special lunch to take to work. 
• Greet him at the door with a kiss and a big smile.
• Tell him you appreciate him.
• Give him a chance to unwind after work.

My Thoughts: WOW! This was a real eye opener for me. These are some awesome ideas and all of them are very doable. Some of these may not be things that your husband would want. That's OK, you KNOW what makes your husband tick. Take the time to study him and make him feel important. Ask him if there is anything you can do to make HIS life easier.

Do you appreciate it when your wife takes the time to show you kindness even when she has had a busy or hectic day?

Rob: Of course.

My Thoughts: Some of us work, some of us are Mothers, some of us have very hectic schedules. However, we all have one thing in common...We are CALLED to be Help Meets to our husbands. It is our God given duty to take care of our men regardless of what we have on our plates!

How does it make you feel?

Rob: Uh...that would be...LOVED!

My Thoughts: LOL!

How do you feel when your wife is unkind or unpleasant towards you?

Rob: Frustrated. Confused. Possibly upset or even angry. Irritated. Resentful would be the best word.

My Thoughts: These are some insightful adjectives. I do not want to make my husband feel any of those things. Unfortunately, there are times when I do. Hearing this, though, makes me want to try harder. What about you? Would you want your husband feeling this way? Do your best to prevent it. Be kind.

What is the number one way that your wife can show you kindness in a real and practical way?

Rob: Sex often. Even when you are not in the mood still pursue me.

My Thoughts: Hmmm...LOL...that's my husband for you! And, yours too I would venture to guess. They do like sex. This is a tough one for many of us. It is not impossible though! Taking the time to make your husband feel like YOU want HIM is very powerful to them and extremely healthy for your marriage!

Any final thoughts?

Rob: I don't expect you to chase me around the house trying to get me in the sack all the time. But--men do love sex more than just about anything. Well...more than anything! LOL!

Creativity is the key to acts of kindness. It doesn't always have to be sex. It's understanding the things that make me happy and feel loved.

My Thoughts: Creativity. I looked it up in the dictionary; the ability to create meaningful new forms, interpretations, ect., originality. When we are creative in our acts of kindness towards our husbands, we are showing them that we cared enough to put thought behind the action. Who wants someone doing something nice for them that has no love, thought or substance behind it? Not me.

We have a wonderful opportunity to show our husbands kindness. Take the time to to find ways to show kindness towards your husband this month. Take the time to get to know YOUR husband's "kindness wishes." Then do everything you can to fulfill them!

God Bless you and your marriages!

Until Next month,

Lara ;)

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Husband of Faith - Kindness