As Unto the Lord

Here I am sitting at my pc thinking over the past years and some of the things God has been doing in my life. This month started making me really appreciate my husband in a new way. God has taught me how to “treat” my husband better, he has taught me to trust Him with my marriage. He has also taught me that just because I do not agree with my husband on different issues that I am not always 100% right. Believe me that was the biggest shock of my life. I mean come on. The wife not always right? I wanted to ask God, “Are you sure about that? That can't be what I am hearing from you.” But, alas, it was. No matter how bad I didn't want to hear it or didn't like hearing it, that was the very thing I HAD to hear. However, for the past eight plus years of my marriage I have been too stubborn to admit that I was the one that was wrong in some instances. It hasn't been totally me but I know now that had I handled myself better and the way God would have wanted me to handle it a lot of things could have been avoided.

Of course it is through those times that we mess up that we learn the most. It was during the times, when I thought my marriage wasn't going to last that I realized how important my husband was to me. The very thought of him not in my life scared me bad enough to cause me to reevaluate my attitude toward him and the way I treated him. Not that I treated him badly but I wasn't doing everything a wife should have. God brought to my remembrance the scripture that says “Whatever may be your task, work at it heartily (from the soul), as [something done] for the Lord and not for men,” (Colossians 3:23). In this instance my task was to be a good wife to my husband and everything that entails I had to remind myself that when it all comes down to it, I am responsible for MY actions not my husbands. So I needed to work on MY attitude. I didn't need to be praying, “Oh God change my husband” if I wasn't willing to allow him to change me. There is nothing wrong with praying for God to make a change in someone but you have to be willing to pray the same thing for yourself.

Needless to say that has been a big issue with me. I finally realized that the way I handled myself wasn't causing us to grow any closer. So with the help of some challenges I started treating my husband sweeter. I would do nice things for him just because I could. I would have his clothes ironed and laid out for him, I would have his dinner ready when he came home. One day I even had all his school stuff laid out on his desk ready for him to study (my husband works full time and is in college full time). I started seeing my husband in turn do nice things for me. He did ask me one day if there was something wrong or if I was trying to prepare him for some big news. I couldn't help but laugh. By doing these things I feel like I have grown closer to my husband and not only that, I feel good about myself. It is so rewarding to be able to do something and to know that even if he doesn't always say anything he does appreciate what I do for him. And even more importantly I am pleasing my Heavenly Daddy by being the wife that He has called me to be.

So ladies I will leave you here. Try to do something nice for your husband at least once a week for this month. Don't do it expecting anything in return. Do it because you love him and you want to show him God's love through you.

Blessings to you,
Dianna

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As Unto the Lord